Some men…they meet a lively, passionate, spunky, witty, chatty chick. Her gist, antics and jokes brighten up their days. They fall for all that. They marry her. Then they begin the process of “change”. They (and in laws) hammer on “you’re a woman”, “keep quiet”, “don’t ask questions, just pray”, “don’t respond to provocation, just pray”, “don’t talk, just pray”, “he will divorce you oh”, “he will beat you oh!”. Over time man’s ego dumbs down woman’s spirit. She withers, at least when with him. The excessive speech censorship and overthinking before talking becomes silence & a dull household. Interrupted only by the sounds of squealing children and meal-preparation.
The home becomes “boring”, the woman takes her need to “talk” elsewhere and the man has “won”. His attraction to sparky, lively, spunky chicks who keep him on his toes starts taking him outside. To flirt and fiddle with “unconquered” females in the universities, at work, fun spots and freelancers.